Why won't they invite me? - Guild Wars Forums

Dawndisciple · May 08, 2009, 07:42 AM // 07:42

Hi everone \o
I am new to Guild wars, coming here after playing AOC.

What I am not understanding is whenever I am in a town, there are many people there running around with a thing over their heads saying that they have a group of 2 or 3 but whatever I do I cannot get them to invite me to their group.
Is everybody in the game so antisocial?

**Marty Silverblade** · May 08, 2009, 07:52 AM // 07:52

It could be for many reasons.

1) People generally don't group unless they have to. The entire game can be beaten with just heroes and henchmen, so if you're just trying to get a group for the sake of having other people to go around and do random quests, it's not going to work.

2) You might be too low leved for people to take you seriously.

3) Number 1 rule for grouping: Unless you know the person, theres a 99.99% chance that that person is a complete idiot. I don't like having to redo missions because people are too stupid to understand a simple instruction.

If you want to play with other people/need to get orientated, join a decent guild (look through the guild forums on Guru and find one that appeals) and they should answer your questions and help out when you need it.

xron · May 08, 2009, 07:57 AM // 07:57

well you have to ask yourself where are you and why?

there are so many different things to do in the game it's unlikely you'll be in the same outpost for the same reason.
unless it's a mission outpost but then, as stated above, ppl play with friends or heroes.

gremlin · May 08, 2009, 08:08 AM // 08:08

I can see how it could appear that way

Many of the players you see are not forming parties its just the heroes they used last.
Before heroes all players that logged into the game were alone but heroes persist and I usually forget I have them with me.

Best way is to use the chat channels they are set up to trade and find parties.
You could also announce yourself in the right channel as looking for a party.

Dawndisciple · May 08, 2009, 08:11 AM // 08:11

I see.

Things are very different to what I am use to, but I will get the hang of it eventually.
Overall I would say that the gaming community in Guild wars is mainly friendly, which I find important. I just could not figure out why I was not getting invited or what it was I was doing wrong.

Faure · May 08, 2009, 08:44 AM // 08:44

Best thing you could do as a new player who doesn't want to use only Hero's/Henchmen is trying to get in a beginner-friendly guild. It will help you understand the game, what to do where and when and most of all; you'll have some friendly and nice people around you that won't judge you for being a newbie. If you want to join a random group you will be most likely get snobbed by players that have far more experience.

Tommy's · May 08, 2009, 09:05 AM // 09:05

Not being able to invite them will probably point that they are full, so there is no room for you.
If they are rejecting you, it can have multiple reasons.
My main reason I click away people if they invite me, is most people that do that (no offence) aren't so well known with the game, and mostly have failing builds. I prefer my heroes and henchman then, that listen to what I say.
Secondly the goal can be different. Sometimes people ask me to help with the mission or quest, but I'm about to do it in HM or going to vanquish the area near it.
Don't feel dumped, you'll get the hang of it.

+ exactly what Faure said. Its not rare people are snobbie and are going to shout bad things at you. And to prevent you from getting agro of those people, only attack what they attack. Never walk on from, never last person, just stay in the middle so it's never your folt

You better not get agro of some people as after your group failed, he is going to waste an hour of his life spamming <Name> is a noob, dont invite him! shouting in the outpost. Specially in alliance battles, some people have blacklists

Good luck in Guild Wars!

turbo234 · May 08, 2009, 09:17 AM // 09:17

Like Marty said I just use heroes because I hate having to redo easy things because of people being incompetant. I even remember a while ago when heroes were first introduced people were using them in ab and it was basically just one person and 3 heroes per group. They removed them shortly after of course. But the point is that people don't really group unless they have to.
Getting into a close guild can make things more enjoyable and you can get people to come along then.

Dawndisciple · May 08, 2009, 09:50 AM // 09:50

Thank you for all of your replys, I now know what is going on and why.

My first day, I think, I was invited twice so you can see why I was a little baffled at not receiving any more invites to group.
In the future if I don't receive any invite I will just make up my own group of henchpeople and get on with it.

I must have wasted hours of game time by standing around waiting for invites.

StManTiS · May 08, 2009, 10:46 AM // 10:46

Well just like you can solo AoC all the way to 80, you can get far in this game using just heroes

Dante the Warlord · May 08, 2009, 11:43 AM // 11:43

Use discordway =), just get three necros and ull be absolutely fine!

Golanda Mard · May 08, 2009, 11:49 AM // 11:49

join a guild (worked for me) they'll help you with missions if really stuck.
Henchies can do the trick to
Use the chat (LFP "name of the mission")
Check what district you are playing in.... if there is almost nobody your chances will be reduced. (left top corner)

Usually if someone asks for help for a mission i've already done i accept, so i expect there are many who do the same.
Continue to level you char... the higher it is, the more chance they will accept. Check for good pve builds on various forums (www.pvxwiki.com) and learn to use it.
grtz

Commander Ryker · May 08, 2009, 11:51 AM // 11:51

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dante the Warlord

Use discordway =), just get three necros and ull be absolutely fine!

That's impossible until you get further along in the game.

Mr. G · May 08, 2009, 12:01 PM // 12:01

Be proactive, start your own group of people. Invite them! ask around to see if anyone is doing what your doing. Find someelse who is as new as you are and go traveling with them, odds are they will know about as much as you so you can laern together rather than ebing dragged along by more experianced players.

Also like its been mentioned, find a good guild who don't mind you being new and start building up your friends list. It's always good to have a list of people who you can PM and just say "I'm going to do this, do you need it?"

If you ever need help in the game feel free to ask mein game 'neyway.

<-- IGN

Elephantaliste · May 08, 2009, 12:16 PM // 12:16

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dawndisciple

I must have wasted hours of game time by standing around waiting for invites.

THey aren't inviting you for the same reason you don't invite people too...
-> there is no reason you don't invite people yourself.

Dawndisciple · May 08, 2009, 12:20 PM // 12:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by Elephantaliste

THey aren't inviting you for the same reason you don't invite people too...
-> there is no reason you don't invite people yourself.

Except for I assume that they know where they are going.

Johny bravo · May 08, 2009, 01:06 PM // 13:06

Also make use of the party window. Advertise yourself as What class you are playing and what mission/quest you want to do. You can also send a join request to other people looking for the same missions.

MagmaRed · May 08, 2009, 01:20 PM // 13:20

Random invites are usually bad. Since there are multiple reasons to form a party in ALL locations, make sure people know what you want to do and that you want to do it with other people. Using local chat and the Party Search feature let you tell other people what you want, and if they want the same thing, they can find you easier. So if you are in a mission outpost, but want to do a quest near there, not the mission, and I am there wanting to do the mission, we wouldn't want to join up with each other.

Communication is key, and it sounds like you are just WAITING. If you are doing more than that, I apologize, but it sounds like you are expecting people to invite you without talking to you first. YOU can easily talk first by telling people you want to join a group and why you want to join that group.

Hybrid Meteroa · May 08, 2009, 01:23 PM // 13:23

I would let you join my group! Unless you're a wammo... I hate wammos.... =P

Dawndisciple · May 08, 2009, 01:56 PM // 13:56

Quote:

Originally Posted by MagmaRed

If you are doing more than that, I apologize, but it sounds like you are expecting people to invite you without talking to you first. YOU can easily talk first by telling people you want to join a group and why you want to join that group.

Ha-ha, no, I did the lfg thing and sent people a whisper, I even resorted to /pickme in front of them, but to no avail.
Now that it has been explained to me that most people prefer to quest alone or with their hero's, it all makes perfect sense.

May 08, 2009, 07:42 AM // 07:42	#1
Dawndisciple Ascalonian Squire Join Date: May 2009 Location: United kingdom	Why won't they invite me? Hi everone \o I am new to Guild wars, coming here after playing AOC. What I am not understanding is whenever I am in a town, there are many people there running around with a thing over their heads saying that they have a group of 2 or 3 but whatever I do I cannot get them to invite me to their group. Is everybody in the game so antisocial?

May 08, 2009, 07:52 AM // 07:52	#2
Marty Silverblade Administrator Join Date: Jun 2006	It could be for many reasons. 1) People generally don't group unless they have to. The entire game can be beaten with just heroes and henchmen, so if you're just trying to get a group for the sake of having other people to go around and do random quests, it's not going to work. 2) You might be too low leved for people to take you seriously. 3) Number 1 rule for grouping: Unless you know the person, theres a 99.99% chance that that person is a complete idiot. I don't like having to redo missions because people are too stupid to understand a simple instruction. If you want to play with other people/need to get orientated, join a decent guild (look through the guild forums on Guru and find one that appeals) and they should answer your questions and help out when you need it. __________________

May 08, 2009, 08:11 AM // 08:11	#5
Dawndisciple Ascalonian Squire Join Date: May 2009 Location: United kingdom	I see. Things are very different to what I am use to, but I will get the hang of it eventually. Overall I would say that the gaming community in Guild wars is mainly friendly, which I find important. I just could not figure out why I was not getting invited or what it was I was doing wrong. Last edited by Dawndisciple; May 08, 2009 at 08:15 AM // 08:15..

May 08, 2009, 09:05 AM // 09:05	#7
Tommy's Furnace Stoker Join Date: Dec 2006 Guild: [Bone] Profession: Mo/	Not being able to invite them will probably point that they are full, so there is no room for you. If they are rejecting you, it can have multiple reasons. My main reason I click away people if they invite me, is most people that do that (no offence) aren't so well known with the game, and mostly have failing builds. I prefer my heroes and henchman then, that listen to what I say. Secondly the goal can be different. Sometimes people ask me to help with the mission or quest, but I'm about to do it in HM or going to vanquish the area near it. Don't feel dumped, you'll get the hang of it. + exactly what Faure said. Its not rare people are snobbie and are going to shout bad things at you. And to prevent you from getting agro of those people, only attack what they attack. Never walk on from, never last person, just stay in the middle so it's never your folt You better not get agro of some people as after your group failed, he is going to waste an hour of his life spamming <Name> is a noob, dont invite him! shouting in the outpost. Specially in alliance battles, some people have blacklists Good luck in Guild Wars! Last edited by Tommy's; May 08, 2009 at 09:07 AM // 09:07..

May 08, 2009, 07:57 AM // 07:57	#3
xron Lion's Arch Merchant Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Denbigh, Wales Guild: Zero Zero Profession: R/	well you have to ask yourself where are you and why? there are so many different things to do in the game it's unlikely you'll be in the same outpost for the same reason. unless it's a mission outpost but then, as stated above, ppl play with friends or heroes.

May 08, 2009, 08:08 AM // 08:08	#4
gremlin Furnace Stoker Join Date: Oct 2006 Guild: GWAR Profession: Me/Mo	I can see how it could appear that way Many of the players you see are not forming parties its just the heroes they used last. Before heroes all players that logged into the game were alone but heroes persist and I usually forget I have them with me. Best way is to use the chat channels they are set up to trade and find parties. You could also announce yourself in the right channel as looking for a party.

May 08, 2009, 08:44 AM // 08:44	#6
Faure Krytan Explorer Join Date: Feb 2006 Guild: Mystic Spiral [MYST] Profession: R/	Best thing you could do as a new player who doesn't want to use only Hero's/Henchmen is trying to get in a beginner-friendly guild. It will help you understand the game, what to do where and when and most of all; you'll have some friendly and nice people around you that won't judge you for being a newbie. If you want to join a random group you will be most likely get snobbed by players that have far more experience.

May 08, 2009, 09:17 AM // 09:17	#8
turbo234 Wilds Pathfinder Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: WI Profession: Mo/	Like Marty said I just use heroes because I hate having to redo easy things because of people being incompetant. I even remember a while ago when heroes were first introduced people were using them in ab and it was basically just one person and 3 heroes per group. They removed them shortly after of course. But the point is that people don't really group unless they have to. Getting into a close guild can make things more enjoyable and you can get people to come along then.

May 08, 2009, 09:50 AM // 09:50	#9
Dawndisciple Ascalonian Squire Join Date: May 2009 Location: United kingdom	Thank you for all of your replys, I now know what is going on and why. My first day, I think, I was invited twice so you can see why I was a little baffled at not receiving any more invites to group. In the future if I don't receive any invite I will just make up my own group of henchpeople and get on with it. I must have wasted hours of game time by standing around waiting for invites.

May 08, 2009, 10:46 AM // 10:46	#10
StManTiS Ascalonian Squire Join Date: Apr 2009 Guild: Fake As A Wedding [CaKe] Profession: E/Rt	Well just like you can solo AoC all the way to 80, you can get far in this game using just heroes

May 08, 2009, 11:43 AM // 11:43	#11
Dante the Warlord Desert Nomad Join Date: Jul 2006 Profession: W/R	Use discordway =), just get three necros and ull be absolutely fine!

May 08, 2009, 11:49 AM // 11:49	#12
Golanda Mard Pre-Searing Cadet Join Date: Feb 2009 Guild: VV Profession: E/Me	join a guild (worked for me) they'll help you with missions if really stuck. Henchies can do the trick to Use the chat (LFP "name of the mission") Check what district you are playing in.... if there is almost nobody your chances will be reduced. (left top corner) Usually if someone asks for help for a mission i've already done i accept, so i expect there are many who do the same. Continue to level you char... the higher it is, the more chance they will accept. Check for good pve builds on various forums (www.pvxwiki.com) and learn to use it. grtz

May 08, 2009, 12:01 PM // 12:01	#14
Mr. G Desert Nomad Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: S. Wales Profession: Mo/Me	Be proactive, start your own group of people. Invite them! ask around to see if anyone is doing what your doing. Find someelse who is as new as you are and go traveling with them, odds are they will know about as much as you so you can laern together rather than ebing dragged along by more experianced players. Also like its been mentioned, find a good guild who don't mind you being new and start building up your friends list. It's always good to have a list of people who you can PM and just say "I'm going to do this, do you need it?" If you ever need help in the game feel free to ask mein game 'neyway. <-- IGN

May 08, 2009, 01:06 PM // 13:06	#17
Johny bravo Wilds Pathfinder Join Date: Aug 2006 Guild: [SoS] Profession: N/	Also make use of the party window. Advertise yourself as What class you are playing and what mission/quest you want to do. You can also send a join request to other people looking for the same missions.

May 08, 2009, 01:20 PM // 13:20	#18
MagmaRed Furnace Stoker Join Date: Mar 2007 Guild: Our Crabs Know True [LOVE] Profession: R/	Random invites are usually bad. Since there are multiple reasons to form a party in ALL locations, make sure people know what you want to do and that you want to do it with other people. Using local chat and the Party Search feature let you tell other people what you want, and if they want the same thing, they can find you easier. So if you are in a mission outpost, but want to do a quest near there, not the mission, and I am there wanting to do the mission, we wouldn't want to join up with each other. Communication is key, and it sounds like you are just WAITING. If you are doing more than that, I apologize, but it sounds like you are expecting people to invite you without talking to you first. YOU can easily talk first by telling people you want to join a group and why you want to join that group.

May 08, 2009, 01:23 PM // 13:23	#19
Hybrid Meteroa Frost Gate Guardian Join Date: Jun 2008 Profession: N/	I would let you join my group! Unless you're a wammo... I hate wammos.... =P